I play basketball and well we have a difficult coach. We had an away game and lost. The bus rolls in at almost midnight. The coach was so mad he opened the gym and made us run lines for almost an hour. My mom was upset because we had a show in grasshopper junction and had to get up early. I guess I got about 3 hours of sleep before we had to leave. She let it go and didn’t say anything.
We had a game and I went up for a shot and a girl came down on my ankle and tore all the tendons and ligaments. I tried to get up and run, but I went to the floor in pain. My mom took me to the doc and he suggested surgery. I went crazy, our band was supposed to play at the state capital in the dome and we were going to receive an award on the senate floor. This was huge, there was only one other person to ever get an award on the senate floor. It was Ray Charles a famous country singer. The doc said, ok and he wrapped it and put me on crutches. I refused a cast because I had to wear my white cowboy boots for the show. When it was over, I was in such pain I was crying once I got to the car. They had to cut off my white boots because of swelling.
On Monday I went to basketball practice on my crutches, my ankle was huge from swelling. The coach said I had to run or I was out the rest of the season. Ok, well I was out anyway because of my ankle, but it was the fact he even wanted me to run. I went to the office and called my mom. She was down there in a matter of minutes. It was funny to watch. My mom was short and so was the coach. They were the same height. He would not make eye contact with her when she was talking. He just scribbled on his clip board. That was the wrong thing to do to my mom when she is talking to you. She grabbed his face and made him look her in the eye. I think he was scared. After a few more mishaps the community got together and he was dismissed as a coach.
My question is how do you know when to engage in a conflict? My mom says forgive and move on when you can. If it involves injury to someone notify a person in authority if you have time. If not use your best judgement. If the conflict finds you, then you have to deal with it as best you can. Don’t add fuel to the fire.
Try to remain calm and remember Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”