When I posted “Would You Be Mad If I Died?”. I got a lot of responses from you, saying what a great kid she is. She did not get there by accident. It was not my great parenting skills, I have made a lot of mistakes. I credit this to Christ and my parents.
I am a believer in a firm foundation in Christ. My children understand that they can lean on God and they are never alone. They both grew up active in church. From VBS to youth group. My husband and I were also involved. The church was a huge support group and it was fun.
One of the most important things I did was to let my kids know I love them no matter what they have done. They can call me anytime day or night and I will come and get them. When my kids ask me about tough subjects, I don’t sugar coat it. They know I will give them an honest answer and If I don’t know, I tell them we can figure it out together. I never judge them. I have made plenty of mistakes at their age.
I started early, when my kids were little, I didn’t say “no, because I said.” I would give them the reason behind my no. It helped them to understand that I was not being mean. I was protecting them and in the process they are gaining wisdom. That did not always work, lol. Usually, they would come back to me and say “you were right, how did you know?” My response was “I had a life before I was an adult.”
Now, my children are at the age that I let them make mistakes and decisions. If they want to talk about a situation, that’s great, but I will not give them the answer. Most of the time just talking out loud, they find the right answer on their own.
You say your children are to old now and it’s too late my kids are messed up and so am I. You just need to have a talk with God, He will help you. Ask him to guide you in your words and open you child’s heart to receive. I will be happy to add you to my prayer list. Just leave me a prayer request. Give it a chance, no matter how old they are your children need you.