When we are hurt so deeply, we want nothing to do with that person ever again. We are often hurt by the ones we love the most. The key word is “love”, that is when it cuts so deep. If you loved them once, you love them now. You can not just turn love on and off like a light switch.
When love turns to hate, it never leaves you alone. The pain is there in a restaurant, a song or a place. You can not get away from it. Maybe, your constant reminder of the relationship is God trying to tell you to forgive.
I knew a man who had a close bond with his best friend of 30 years. The two would get a feeling when there was trouble and go and support. The families took trips together and shared wonderful memories.
So what happened? I believe it was a business deal gone wrong. Both were prideful and stubborn. Years went by, the man thought a lot about his friend and continued to tell funny stories from their friendship. He said he forgave, but he still would not call. He missed his best friend and I am assuming his best friend missed him as well. A few more years past the man had a second child, this time he didn’t share it with his best friend.
One day, the man told me “Something is wrong with my best friend, I can feel it.” I told him to call. The man went in and surfed the internet for answers. Still too stubborn to call. He found that his best friend had died. The man became angry and remorseful that he had not reached out to him earlier and now it was to late.
This man could tell me countless stories of fun, laughter, joy, and the support for each other. He could only tell me ONE story of hurt. Don’t let that ONE event destroy a friendship.
If you attempt make things right and the person is unwilling. At least you tried and then you will save yourself the pain of regret in the end.
Find a way to mend the fences.