Attack by Someone You Trust
I want to be a Best-Selling Author! Why you ask? Because, I know that every time my book is read, someone has the chance to hear about God. A chance for someone to relate to a character or a story line.
Over the next few blogs, I am going to talk about different portions in my book “Seasons Once Upon My Innocence”
Aubree, A young teen is attacked by someone she trusted. That happens more than anyone would like to admit. A family member, family friend or someone you would ever expect. Aubree was attacked by a family friend. Though she is just a teen, she looked at her options and possible outcomes. In a situation like this, no one wins. Some would say Aubree, being a teen does not have a say in what will happen, and it is up to her parents. Others would say it is her decision.
Aubree’s first decision is how do I stop it and where do I run. Have you thought about preparing your children for predators? Strangers maybe, what about people they trust? How to avoid getting into a situation of temptation for a predator. I have both my girls and myself training in martial arts. They learn not to panic, how to and where to strike to disable the attacker so they can get away. This is a subject that is uncomfortable I know, but it is important! Help them plan and an exit strategy.
Second, does Aubree decide to tell anyone, who does she trust for guidance. How is your relationship with your children? Do they trust that you won’t just blow-up, blame them or start involving others before you know what even happened? It is important that your children know they can come to you with anything, no matter how bad. You will first hug them and tell them everything is going to be okay. Your child is hurting, scared and violated, give them your full attention.
Third, Aubree must decide how to handle it. This part can be sticky, depending on the parties involved, how serious of the attach, ages and the list goes on. The bottom line is, you need to sit down with your child and calmly discuss options. Listen to your child. Sometimes we as parents think only we know what is best for our child. Consider their feelings and fears. Come up with a plan together for healing of all parties. If you don’t let your child be involved in the decision, it could drive you apart!
I won’t give away the outcome. Just know that Aubree and her parent’s decision may be different than what yours would have been. That is why I stress every situation is different, there is no formula to follow. The only formula I can offer is this: Love your kids above all and make sure they know they can come to you not for judgement, but for help. Decide together, don’t just tell them what is going to happen. Listen to them, they are the victim and they are the one that must live with the event. It’s not about you or your family name. Above all pray God will guide you.
This is just a sample of one of the many ways Aubree and her peers begin to lose their innocence and the seasons of becoming an adult creep in.
I look forward to hearing from you. If you would like a personal prayer, simply press the Prayer option on this blog. I would love to pray for you. Begin praying now over your children and the choices they make.
Blessings to you all
Attack by Someone You Trust